The Agenda

Lately, I have had several people say to me, “I’m so sick of hearing about gay marriage.” On one hand, I understand what they mean. It’s in the news daily. It’s on Facebook daily. It can be overwhelming at times. But here’s the thing: it won’t stop until homosexuals are allowed to marry as others are. If you are sick of hearing about it, then stop arguing against it. You are part of the reason why we are still hearing about it.

But you know what? I’m sick of hearing you quote Bible verse after Bible verse to fit your AGENDA, while ignoring verses that would keep you quiet and bring peace and happiness to a whole lot of people. I’m sick of you posting verse after verse on Facebook {which is fine in and of itself}, but not being open to other’s thoughts and feelings. You could use your Bible and faith to promote love and acceptance, as so many do, but you would rather stick to a few verses that are against certain things which happen to coincide with things that make you uncomfortable. There are more verses in the Bible about love and forgiveness than there are for your petty issues, and yet you stick with them. And you do it in the name of God! It would be admirable to see you stand so strongly for your faith, but you are using your stance to harm others. There is nothing admirable about that.

Your faith does not need to be threatened by what others do in their own lives. You don’t have to be afraid that your children will be exposed to other lifestyles. Guess what? They already are. Unless you are keeping your children under lock and key 24/7, they are being exposed to other lifestyles daily. They are going to see magazines in grocery stores that promote other lifestyles. They are going to meet athiests and feminists and evolutionists at Walmart. They may not know it, but they are there. The people you teach your children to smile at and say “thank you” to and “God bless you” are those same people. Do you stop and ask if they are a lesbian first before you help them pick up the bags they just dropped in the parking lot? Do you ask if they believe in God before you hand out food to the needy? Would you prevent them from eating if they didn’t believe in God? Then why do that in other aspects of life?

You say you are sick of hearing about the “gay agenda.” People are sick of having their lifestyles questioned by your Biblical agenda. It’s not just homosexuals who can’t be left alone around you, but at least my athiest self was allowed to get married – although not without a fair amount of drama. The love that you have for your spouse is no different from our love. Whether I love a man or a woman should have no impact on you whatsoever. You don’t have to be afraid of the “gay agenda.” They just want to live their lives, their way.

There is a great article about C. S. Lewis, and what he went through while trying to marry a woman who had been divorced. It should give you a good perspective on how harmful it is to continue having this stance. I know my divorced mother has felt ostracized in the church for a long time over this stuff. She felt like a second class citizen because she was divorced. She felt even worse once she remarried. Is this how you want her to feel? Would you feel better if she had spent the last twenty-five years alone instead of remarrying? Does that make you feel better as a Christian because it’s in the Bible? Does it help promote the Gospel? Does it help at all in your walk with God? Does it make you feel more holy to call homosexuals perverts? {Don’t get me started on the amount of straight men who are Christian who are as perverted as can be.} Does that help you sleep at night? When you tuck your precious children in at night, do you pray that they won’t become gay? What would you do if they did? Would you hate them as you hate homosexuals? Don’t lie. You hate them. You can say you hate the sin but love the sinner all you want, but loving the sinner does not look like what you are doing. According to your Bible, all are sinners. Yet, you still act like some are worse than others. Romans 3:10: There is none good. Not even one. Romans 3:23: All have sinned and fall short. James 2:10: If you fail at one point of the law, you fail at all of it. Matthew 7: 1-5ish: Judge not if you don’t want to be judged. How you judge others is how you will be judged. Hypocrite, there’s a freaking black hole in your eye while you are worried about the dot in your brother’s eye. 1 John 3: 15: Hating your brother is compared to murder.

Shall I go on? Have I made my point? I have already listed more verses about not treating your fellow man like crap than there are verses about being against homosexuality.

It’s fine if you disagree with homosexuals. Not everyone feels this way, but I do. It’s okay not to like that I’m an atheist either. I get that. It goes against everything you live for. But would it be better to live in a world with only like-minded Christians? Would that be your Utopia? I would like to live in a world where there is no pain, no murder, no hurt for my children. That is never going to happen. But you know what can happen? Acceptance for each other. Christians, homosexuals, and athiests can all sit at the same table and find something in common. We can share our stories. We can all share how what we feel and how we live has caused someone else to treat us poorly. That should be enough for all of us to stand up for our fellow man even if we don’t agree with them.

I’m sick of hearing people hate on each other. Not because they kill animals or try to kidnap children from their beds. But simply because they don’t think the same way as you do.

People are not the enemy. Thinking your belief is more important than everyone else’s is. That is what starts wars. That is what causes groups like the Westboro Baptists and ISIS to thrive.

Love your life. Love your beliefs. Be PROUD of them. Just don’t use them to harm others.



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